On this site, when we use the term, “Cassandra Syndrome,” we are referring to the lived experiences of non-spectrum partners in neurodiverse relationships. Sometimes this can cause confusion for partners on the spectrum because they often face immense traumas of their own. This video from Jodi Carlton, MEd, helps explain that addressing traumas experienced by the non-spectrum partner does not take away from the spectrum partner’s experiences, nor does it imply blame. Both can be true: autistic people often experience many difficulties and traumas, AND non-spectrum partners experience difficulties, too. It’s just that “Cassandra Syndrome” was originally coined to address the experiences of the non-spectrum partner, specifically.
We at Cassandra Directory wish the best for all involved! However, as non-spectrum partners ourselves, our “expertise” and focus is on providing resources to non-spectrum partners as they work on restoring their vitality and finding satisfying emotional connections. This is our area of experience. For partners on the spectrum, we recommend professionals like Jodi Carlton, MEd who are far more knowledgeable and skilled at addressing specific concerns of folks with ASD.
Hope this makes sense and we can all work on improving our lives as individuals as well as bridging the gap that can exist between partners of ND couples and loved ones.
What do you think? We’d love to read your comments.
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